I am Caryl Wyatt, a middle-aged woman from the Northern Suburbs of Johannesburg. In the past, I have spoken publicly about my struggle with bulimia and I am no newcomer to the therapeutic power contained in the interaction between speaker and listeners.
It is this knowledge that inspired me to gather the courage and break silence about the violently abusive marriage I was trapped in for 15 years.
I had been beaten up many times. I had broken bones, blue eyes, split lips, grazed flesh, many “visits” to the hospital, to the lawyers, to the police station, isolation and treatment for depression - and still I would go back for more!
Through my own life experience I have become painfully aware of the fact that there are sadly many, many more women caught up in this macabre dance than we care to admit. They are rendered powerless by an awful paradox - they are afraid to loose their “security”; and at the same time it is their provider that threatens their lives.
I have also come to realize that neither the educated doctors who have attended to my injuries over the years, nor the divorce attorneys, seem to understand the nature of this beast. These professionals are the ones that women like me reach out to.
My quest for a “cure” lead me to do much research on the subject and brought me to the ironic realization that you alone can do it, but you cannot do it alone.
In September 2006 I launched the Abuse is no Excuse campaign with my website, www.abusenoexcuse.co.za. The site is intended to support, educate and give hope to women who are trapped in abusive relationships. It contains a message forum for users to communicate with each other, and several links to other relevant sites. My own story is posted on the site as Carleedancer and my book LOOK ME IN THE EYE is available both in Exclusive book stores around the country and on the website.
Other services that I offer in this regard are -
• Public Speaking – I make myself available to tell my story to as many audiences as possible, in the effort to remove the culturally induced stigma of domestic violence and abusive relationships amongst the middle to upper income group. It’s not a shame – it is a mistake. Denial is the real killer in the end. In the corporate world, the subject is ‘ Coping with domestic turmoil when talking to working people’.
• Therapeutic Journaling Workshops - As part of my own recovery process, I learnt the skill of creating mental and emotional health through journaling. I offer workshops to teach participants a creative way of responding to their given situations. These workshops are also available to Corporate and have great value in helping people to become more aware of them selves and achieve balance in both their personal and professional lives. We all know about goal setting and visualization but few people know the value of journaling and how it can help us make all our dreams a reality.
For more information, please contact Caryl Wyatt
Cell : 083 380 7299
E-Mail :carylw3@mweb.co.za
CARYL WYATT:
PUBLIC SPEAKER – carylw3@mweb.co.za
JOURNALING WORKSHOPS – carylw3@mweb.co.za
INVITATIONS:
Hand made invitations for weddings, menus, place names for table settings, birthdays, corporate functions and calligraphy on certificates.
Email invitations, which would be attached to a normal email.
Fees will depend on quantities and materials used.
PHOTOGRAPHIC ART:
Photo art is done in PHOTO SHOP. Photo’s can either be improved or changed altogether. Before and after photo’s are available as examples. Please email me, carylw3@mweb.co.za.
PHOTO BOOKS:
‘My photo book’ is a personalized coffee table book with all your favorite photo’s. We all love collecting photo’s but very few people get to enjoy them and share them with friends. These books are a wonderful way of sharing those memories with others. The program for this book is available at most photographic outlets, but most people do not have the time to put these books together with artistic flare.
These are just a few idea’s:
Wedding albums.
Baby books.
My life story.
Holidays.
Gifts for:
Mothers Day.
Fathers Day.
Birthdays
21st Birthday
Christmas.
Kitchen Tea.
Baby Shower.
The price for these books will depend on a couple of factors, and will be discussed with the first consultation.
1. The size of the book.
2. How many pages the book will contain.
3. The book can be a hard or soft cover.
4. The photo’s might need to be corrected in photo shop.
I am also available to tutor anyone who would like to learn how to use this program and assist in putting a book together.
ARTIST.
Affordable art for anyone who likes originals and does not have the funds to purchase investment art.
PRICES:
Depending on the size, material, and the time needed my paintings range from R1000- R20,000.
MAKE-UP ARTIST:
Two of my daughters and my self are make up artists. We do Weddings, Glamour workshops and Photographic make up.
For further information please contact:
Caryl – 083 380 7299 or carylw3@mweb.co.za
HAND WRITING ANALIST:
Accept the things you cannot change, change the things you can, and have the wisdom to know the difference.
In 2001 I completed my studies in Johannesburg with Silvana Grandin at GRAFEX which is accredited with the Pretoria Technicon. There are several different fields that a qualified hand writing analyst could consider specializing, human resources, children, psychological counseling and relationships, I have chosen to do the latter. Forensic work is a separate course all together and is a very specialized field of expertise.
I have attracted two abusive marriages and spent many years in counseling but I was never able to understand, why I was making the choice in the first place and why I chose to stay in such unhealthy relationships. I wanted to study handwriting so that I could understand people, but in the process I learnt to understand myself. Once I had qualified and I was able to analyze the handwriting of the relationships I had been in, it was very obvious to me where the problems were. I soon realized that nothing I could do or say would ever change the personality or the behaviour of the person I was with, as a result I was able to work on myself and break the cycle of abuse.
Analyzing hand writing is not fortune telling, that must be made very clear from the start and an analyst is not a clairvoyant. Nothing in a person’s hand writing can tell you what will happen tomorrow, we are all responsible for our own choices, but the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. There are many things that can be changed in our behavior provided the desire is there, but often in relationships both parties expect the changes to come from the other person.
Handwriting is unique to every individual as no two fingerprints are the same. Consider that neither a polygraph, astrological sign or sexual preference are admissible in court in order to find someone guilty, but Handwriting analysis is a science and is used in court all the time.
All handwriting can be analyzed but I have the following specific requirements in order to do a proper analysis.
1. A full page of writing on unlined paper.
2. Paper should be resting on a magazine or pad of paper and not on a flat hard surface.
3. The writing must be done with a pen or pencil that the person would normally use, leaving no excuse for not liking the ink, colour or brand of pen.
4. The writer should sit facing the table and not write on ones lap for example.
5. Permission from the writer.
My fee for each analysis is R450 and an extra R250 if a consultation afterwards is required.
My Contact details:
Caryl 083 380 7299, carylw3@mweb.co.za
www.abuseisnoexcuse.co.za
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